To say that the past year has been a challenge would be a bold understatement. However at this time last year, I was dreading Thanksgiving, dreading the holidays, dreading going on with my day to day life with the absence of my Poppy leaving a tremendous void in my life.
Since that time I've learned that it's okay to have bad days, it's okay to lean on people - but the past cannot swallow your entire life. These days, I'm thankful for so many things, and my life feels fuller and much more positive.
I'm thankful for so many people, events, and memories that I have to keep pushing me through. So many events keep shaking me and leaving me to wake up and realize that while yeah, I have things that suck and things I can complain about, it makes so much more sense to shut the hell up and count the things in my life that are amazing and beautiful.
There will always be things in our lives that are hard, or that we have trouble coping or dealing with - but at the end of the day, if you focus on only those things, you'll become a bitter, miserable person who no longer can see the good in anything.
On this Thanksgiving, I'm realizing more than ever just how much I have to be thankful for (I know it sounds so contrite). There are the cliche things, like my family and friends, the fact that I have a steady job that I am in love with, or that I have the luxury of going out and trying new places with the people I care about most. There are the little things, like weekly dinners with my best friend, being able to vote in the most recent election, Google+ hangouts with my college roommates, pub crawls with friends, pumpkin flavored anything, things on Pinterest that inspire me and make me happy, and finding bars that serve Hoegaarden and craft beers - these are all the little things that make me happy and that I've been choosing to focus on versus dwelling on the bad things.
These are some of the things/people/places I'm thankful for this past year - things that I'm trying to focus on despite all the negativity that life/karma/whatever throws my way.
Best friends, and some of my favorite people.
Work, which I love more with each day.
My nephew, who reminds me what unconditional love is.
My advice would be - tell the people who you care about that you love them whenever possible, try to find at least one or two good things in the midst of every struggle or terrible day, and don't let the bastards get you down.
What are you most thankful for? (The big and little things).
Happy Thanksgiving, to all my US friends! xox
Currently listening to: Blood Bank - Bon Iver