Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Love Lessons (from the 90's).

So, I am a child of the 90's. While I was born in the late 80's (this fact makes the jaws of my students drop - they cannot believe that I am that old), my childhood was spent curled up on the couch watching Legends of the Hidden Temple (so wishing that I could be a contestant - I still kind of do), watching Mary-Kate and Ashley movies (who knew I'd still love them when I grew up), and eating fruit roll-ups.

Now, believe it or not, my mother - the same French, Golden Girls watching woman who would swear in French and assume we were oblivious to it, was very particular about the movies I watched when I was growing up.

This horrible woman would not let me go see Titanic when it came out in fourth grade, even though ALL my other friends were seeing it and she basically ruined my social life by not allowing me to see it.


I am now 22 (almost 23 in TWO WEEKS), and I have a serious soft spot in my heart for 90's teen romance movies - I love Blair and Chuck, but there's something about Kat Stratford and Patrick Verona that has stolen my heart in the fullest extent possible.

There are some serious love (and life) lessons that we can be learning from our favorite movies of the 90's.

Pretty Woman.

Now, I'm not saying we should all become high-class hookers to find our very own Richard Gere, but I think that when it comes down to it, this movie has taught me that self-respect is the key to a successful relationship - Vivian was who she was, no matter what life threw her way.



This is my go-to movie when I'm feeling sad. Cher Horowitz can cheer me up like none other. The romance lessons from this movie are simple:

1. If a guy is very into fashion, checks out other guys, and doesn't make a move on you when you're laying in bed together watching a movie (or if his hands are at his sides when you're grinding up on him), he is most likely gay.


2. Sometimes, the person that you're meant to be with is right under your nose. (And usually this person knows you better than you ever realized).


You've Got Mail.

Judge me for loving this movie - I do not even care. Now, as a 21st century person who just recently watched The Craigslist Killer movie on Lifetime, I find the whole finding someone on a chatroom angle pretty creepy.

However - this movie taught me that no matter what, the circumstances that life throws - good and bad, that if two people are meant to be, they'll find a way. Also, it taught me that you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover (corny cliche, I KNOW - because both main characters own bookstores) because you never know what someone is like under the surface.

P.S., If nothing else, this movie made me relieved that we are past the days of dial-up internet.

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Ten Things I Hate About You.

This movie had it all - feminism at it's finest, covers of Cheap Trick, and a modern retelling of Shakespeare - plus, Heath Ledger and Joseph Gordon-Levitt as a nerd. COME ON.


I like this movie, because I feel like in so many 90's teen movies (like She's All That), the girl has to go through this dramatic transformation in order to get the guy, but Kat Stratford is who she is (and SHE ends up changing the bad boy - girl power at it's finest!).

Also, I am a fan of any movie where the nerd (whether it's a male or female nerd) gets the girl. Again, in this movie, the nice, nerdy boy who genuinely loves the pretty popular girl, makes her change. (But seriously - Andrew Keegan, where you been hiding out since 1999?).


While I'm opposed to someone changing to try and impress or please the unrealistic expectations of others, I am ALL about change for betterment.

"Should you be drinking alcohol if you don't have a liver?"

Notting Hill.

Underneath the fame and fortune that movie star Anna experiences on a daily basis, she is, "Just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her."

No matter what you have in life - money, no money, fame, friends, loneliness - whatever - love will always take precedence and be the thing that matters most.


Cruel Intentions.

This is one of my all-time favorite movies - it makes me laugh out loud and cry and wish Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Philippe were still together.


To me, this is one of the realest and most beautiful love stories ever - another story (with an edge) about how love can change even the most horrible of people (Sebastian is the literal definition of a womanizing douchebag).


If you've never seen this movie, you must - you will laugh, cry, and feel absolutely sick to your stomach at some points.

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Beauty & the Beast.

Judge me if you must for including this movie, but I think it has some of the greatest lessons on love of any movie, ever. Plus, it's absolutely beautiful.

Basically, this movie shows that love really does conquer all, and that when it comes to love, don't rule anyone out, no matter what they look like, what image they project, and what their status is. (Though I wouldn't advise being enslaved by anyone to find your own Prince Charming).

Who would have thought this would be a picture that makes me think of true love? (I'm still 5 at heart, I swear).
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The movie that almost ruined my social life (I didn't end up seeing it until FIFTH grade - Quelle horreur!).

The love lesson I take from this movie is basically that when it comes to love, you don't necessarily find true, deep love from the person you're supposed to be with. Sometimes love can you by surprise, and come from the person you would least expect it with.


What were some of your favorite movies from the 90's? (And did you learn any loveee lessons from them?).

Currently: On the verge of an existential breakthrough (or crisis) - big, BIG changes are coming my way, and I'm terrified (even though I know it's for the best).


Morgane said...

i'm totally with you concerning those movies , specially with cruel intentions ! Notting hill was a must too ( i adore hugh grant) , i add one reality bites with young ben stiller , ethan hawke and winona rider ( you have to see it!) very 90's !

Lindsay said...

With every movie you listed I was shouting YES!! These are all among my faves. I haven't seen Cruel Intentions in forever! I'm SO glad you listed Beauty and the Beast it is my all time favorite Disney movie. I love being a nineties child!

▲my• said...

Ahh. I am too a total nineties child.

Love love love Cruel Intentions, 10 Things I Hate About You, and Beauty and the Beast <3

Also, Legends of the Hidden Temple!
I loved that show. I mean, it gave me nightmares for some strange reason, but I loved it!

D said...

WOW! This post just made my day! From Clueless to Notting Hill! You just made me want to go home and watch all these movies!

Jenna said...

I am so excited you took on this topic!!! I loved the 90's. And I am a LEGIT child of the 90's... :) I am gonna break it down movie by movie! (More what I love rather than lessons?)

Pretty Woman - It's the quintessential rom-com. And I will watch anything Roberts/Gere. 'Nuff said.

Clueless - Don't force your friends together...and although it's creepy she ends up with her ex-stepbrother, I truly heart Paul Rudd so 'tis okay.

You've Got Mail - I WAS SO ANGRY THAT I LEFT THIS OUT OF MY POST. This might actually be my favorite movie of ALL TIME. It just makes me feel so good watching it!! I don't know what it is. I just adore the Meg/Tom chemistry, the cuteness, the dialogue. Oh gosh. LOVE.

10 Things - Again, I really love this. I think the Julia-Heath match was spot on. They played well off each other!! And also, JGL is just adorable. Even as a nerd.

Notting Hill - HORROR! I have never seen this movie all the way through. Although, the premise is really cute and I know the storyline...but I cannot officially comment.

Cruel Intentions - This was such a good movie. Sorta scandalous at the time I first saw it, as I was really young, but I just love Reese and Ryan. (Even though I think he is a huge scumbag now...) Best part? Bittersweet Symphony by The Verve playing at the end as she drives off. CLASSIC.

Beauty & The Beast - It's been too long since I last saw this!

Titanic - Romantic. And I am sorta in love with Leo. More so now. Like Inception-style Leo. :)


Style, She Wrote said...

Ah! These are all among my favorite movies. So glad to see that some of my childhood choices have aided me as an adult.

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Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

First off, let's discuss the samll print....are you OK? Girl, do NOT hesitate to email/tweet me!

And as far as the movies, I loved the teen movies of the 90s! 10 Things I Hate About You is one of my favs! Clueless of course too!

It's funny becuase I've seen the teen movies but none of the classics. Never seen Pretty Woman, Dirty Dancing, You've Got Mail...I really need to get on that :)

Giovanna&Roberta said...

Love this post dear!
And thank you so much for your lovely comment, you're so kind!

OceanDreams said...

ohhh i think you just named a lot of films that i love from the 90's; loved pretty woman, titanic, and clueless! i'll have to think of others i've seen, but great recaps and thoughts on these amazing films!

HiFashion said...

I'm a 90's kid as well (born in the late 80's). I sound old when I say it like that!
Lol, oddly enough, my mum wouldn't let me watch Titanic either. It took me a lot of tantrums, lol. So sad. It was so amazing though!
Clueless and Ten Things I Hate about You were classics for our time. I loved them!

Kristin said...

Notting Hill still makes me swoon, but not quite as much as Four Weddings and a Funeral does!

Holly said...

Oh dear. I'll be 24 this year and I still haven't see Titanic. :O

Olive said...

This post was definitely a fun read :). Since I was a little behind you growing up in the 90's, I haven't gotten to see a lot of these, plus I'm behind in movies in general, something I'm trying to fix.. But I have seen Titantic, and my mother wouldn't let me watch it until I was older either--dare I say like, 7th grade? I watched it with all of my friends who had seen it already, and tried not to cry at the sad parts, and of course they laughed at me :P. I HAVE seen 10 Things I Hate About You and the ever classic Beauty & the Beast, but you've given me a nice list of 90's classics to catch myself up on, so thanks for that ;).
I wish you all of the best with your breakthrough, I hope everything is going alright for you my dear. Change is hard, but I'm sure you will come up above whatever obstacle comes your way.

la petite fashionista said...

seriously LOVEEEEE this post. im twittering it :)

i'm also going thru HUGE life changes!! good luck to you with yours!! <3 I know you can handle what ever is thrown at you!

Carol {Everyday Delights} said...

Titanic - yes!!!!

Lani said...

Awww...I wanna go back to the 90's. The good ole days.

daisymay aka Chantele said...

OMG major flash backs lol. Great post!

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Gina said...

LOVE this post!!! because i love all of these movies, despite only having been born in the mid-90s.
my favorites are pretty woman, clueless, cruel intentions, 10 things... basically, all of them. 90s movies were seriously the best!

really really brilliant post here! made me smile soo much :)

Courtney said...

This post made my life. New Follower here :)

Tracy-Girl @ Then I Got To Thinking said...

Eeek! I love Pretty Woman! It is one of my favorites!!